Below is the Facebook status update I wrote this morning. It pretty much sums up my thought about embarking on a new year...
I've been thinking a lot the past few days about 2016. Believe it or not, I am not one to do that or get all hyped up about a New Year, maybe because for me, every day is a fresh start.
I've been reading a lot on FB about how horrible 2016 was and how people couldn't wait to start a new year. For me, 2016 was pretty lousy, but there were two wonderful event highlights that stood out: our Ireland trip and my Kripalu yoga retreat. When going through our wonderful moments jar last night, I got to remember that there were other great moments too. I think a lot of those memories got lost and overshadowed by all the bad.
But, there was a ton of sadness and pain, both physical and emotional. When I think about that lately though, I realize that having a year like 2016 is just a part of life. Nobody ever promised me that life would be easy or filled with solely happy moments and days. We always expect it will be though, don't we?
I got a lot out of 2016. I learned a ton about who I am and I am definitely not the same person I was on this day last year. After spending my entire life believing the statement that, "you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family". I have learned that is no longer true for me: you CAN choose your family. I chose this past year to sever ties with a family member who brought me more stress, drama, and negativity than what was healthy for me. On the opposite end of the spectrum, I lost somebody dear to me who was not blood related, but family nonetheless. Essentially, I lost two brothers in one month. And, a sister.
I learned to say "no" and that I get to choose what is brought to my door and what/who I am willing to sacrifice my time and health for....that list got much shorter in 2016.
I learned who will be there for me when the shit hits the fan and when the days are dark and long. I had more darker days than I care to remember, especially this past fall...but those days reminded me of how strong I am. I learned what it really means for ME to be a friend and the value of what it means to truly connect with a person on all levels. I learned the importance of not taking my life for granted.
My relationship with God and my church changed. My relationship with my husband changed. My relationship with myself changed. Pretty big stuff.
I pray that each and every one of you have a 2017 that brings you nothing but happiness, peace, love, and good health. And for the times that it doesn't, I pray that it brings you the strength to get through the bad times and people by your side to help carry your through it.
Happy New Year!! <